K'naan knew what he was talking about when he penned his lyrics. A recent article in the economist explains that happiness follows a "U-bend" throughout one's life. We start out happy as we're discovering life, things go down hill from youth to middle age, then we get cheerful again.
What makes people happy? Four main factors: gender, personality, external circumstances, and age.
Gender
Women are generally slightly happier than men, although more susceptible to depression.
Personality
Two personality traits shine through: neuroticism and extroversion. Neurotic people— prone to guilt, anger and anxiety—tend to be unhappy. Neurotic people are not just prone to negative feelings: they also tend to have low emotional intelligence, which makes them bad at forming or managing relationships, and that in turn makes them unhappy. Extroverts - those who like working in teams and who relish parties tend to be happier than those who shut their office doors in the daytime and hole up at home in the evenings.
External Circumstance
All sorts of things in people’s lives, such as relationships, education, income and health, shape the way they feel.
Age
Yes. Age. As the U-Bend shows, people reach their lowest point sometime in their forties and experience their happiest years in the beginning and end of their lives. But could the U-Bend be a result of growing up in different eras? The accumulation of data undermines this effect. Americans and Zimbabweans have not been formed by similar experience, yet the U-Bend still appears in both countries.
So, the moral of the story is: the older we get, the brighter we become. I'm betting that as the world's grey-haired population increases, this will have a positive effect.
The reality is this: the world is full of good news! Inspirational people, small acts of kindness, creativity, love, and happiness. If we shift our focus to proportionately include and value these stories, what impact could this have?
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Charter for Compassion
Here's a Charter we can all get behind! The Charter for Compassion is a declaration to restore compassion to the centre of our moral and religious traditions. It started on February 28, 2008 at the TED conference when Karen Armstrong won the TED Prize and made a wish: for help creating, launching and propagating a Charter for Compassion.
Since then, thousands of people and institutions signed the Charter:
- Seattle signed it and became the first "Compassionate City"
- In the US, the entire presbyterian church signed it
- In South Africa, reverend Peter Story unveiled the Charter at the World Cup.
What exactly is compassion? The principle of compassion lies at the heart of all religious, ethical and spiritual traditions, calling us always to treat all others as we wish to be treated ourselves. It's the Golden Rule...and each culture has it's own words to describe it..
"Do unto others as you would have done to you."
"Do not treat others how you would not like to be treated"
Although wording varies, each tradition shares the same message: Live and act with empathy (Check out Jeremy Rifkin explaining the empathic civilization). As one signatory of the Charter put it "I will commit to seeing myself in my enemy."
Imagine the world we would shape if we each made this committment.
Make your committment
Since then, thousands of people and institutions signed the Charter:
- Seattle signed it and became the first "Compassionate City"
- In the US, the entire presbyterian church signed it
- In South Africa, reverend Peter Story unveiled the Charter at the World Cup.
What exactly is compassion? The principle of compassion lies at the heart of all religious, ethical and spiritual traditions, calling us always to treat all others as we wish to be treated ourselves. It's the Golden Rule...and each culture has it's own words to describe it..
"Do unto others as you would have done to you."
"Do not treat others how you would not like to be treated"
Although wording varies, each tradition shares the same message: Live and act with empathy (Check out Jeremy Rifkin explaining the empathic civilization). As one signatory of the Charter put it "I will commit to seeing myself in my enemy."
Imagine the world we would shape if we each made this committment.
Make your committment
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Youth Leaders in Surrey
Tonight, more than 70 youth leaders from 13 Surrey high schools are getting together to network, learn from each other, make connections, and have some fun! They are a part of a Committee called "Ideas36" which focuses on student leadership matters and includes student representatives from each secondary school in Surrey.
They meet about four times a year and at tonight's meeting Pulse Energy engineer and former Surrey high school student, Hamish, will talk with the group. Who else will talk? Two school groups I have been working with through the High School Climate Challenge! Climate Action Teams from Enver Creek Secondary and Kwantlen Secondary will present their school greenhouse gas audit results and their plans to reduce greenhouse gas emissions.
Working with youth has been an inspiring journey. I know that people are making a difference at every level and in any way they can. Leaders (and leading followers!) exist and are learning to think outside the box to cause ripples and waves of change that will get us to a brighter future.
Events and committees like Ideas36 inspire me, as they provide proof that we are shifting toward meaningful collaboration. Why does this matter? Working together and re-weaving social fabric are vital for the health of our comunities and our home - the planet.
They meet about four times a year and at tonight's meeting Pulse Energy engineer and former Surrey high school student, Hamish, will talk with the group. Who else will talk? Two school groups I have been working with through the High School Climate Challenge! Climate Action Teams from Enver Creek Secondary and Kwantlen Secondary will present their school greenhouse gas audit results and their plans to reduce greenhouse gas emissions.
Working with youth has been an inspiring journey. I know that people are making a difference at every level and in any way they can. Leaders (and leading followers!) exist and are learning to think outside the box to cause ripples and waves of change that will get us to a brighter future.
Events and committees like Ideas36 inspire me, as they provide proof that we are shifting toward meaningful collaboration. Why does this matter? Working together and re-weaving social fabric are vital for the health of our comunities and our home - the planet.
Friday, November 12, 2010
Sharing a Meal Together in Cape Town
On November 27, 2010, a thousand people will gather in Cape Town, South Africa to share a meal together. Imagine this. One THOUSAND people eating together, chatting, laughing, exchanging stories, sharing flavours and aromas. What makes this even more special is that they will be cooking their food exclusivley with solar cookers.
In the Khayelitsha community of Cape Town, many residents do not have access to electricity. Families are forced to cook with parffin, scraps of wood or other flammable and carbon-intensive materials. For families that do have access to electricity, energy is very expensive. The NGO, South South North, estimates that in neighborhoods like Khayelitsha 25% of a family's income is spent on energy service.
These cookers are an immediate and critical solution to the energy crisis in this community that also helps to relieve the financial struggles of local families.
People helping People
People all over the world can support this event in South Africa by sponsoring a large parabolic solar cooker for $150 that will be used in the event and then given to the Khayelitsha community of Cape Town. Each high powered parabolic cooker lasts for 10 years and requires no fossil fuels.
Maybe this is what you want to ask for for Christmas? To learn more or to donate, visit:
http://earth.350.org/cooking-your-food-with-the-sun-in-south-africa/
In the Khayelitsha community of Cape Town, many residents do not have access to electricity. Families are forced to cook with parffin, scraps of wood or other flammable and carbon-intensive materials. For families that do have access to electricity, energy is very expensive. The NGO, South South North, estimates that in neighborhoods like Khayelitsha 25% of a family's income is spent on energy service.
These cookers are an immediate and critical solution to the energy crisis in this community that also helps to relieve the financial struggles of local families.
People helping People
People all over the world can support this event in South Africa by sponsoring a large parabolic solar cooker for $150 that will be used in the event and then given to the Khayelitsha community of Cape Town. Each high powered parabolic cooker lasts for 10 years and requires no fossil fuels.
Maybe this is what you want to ask for for Christmas? To learn more or to donate, visit:
http://earth.350.org/cooking-your-food-with-the-sun-in-south-africa/
Thursday, November 11, 2010
A Wonderful War Story
On this Remembrance Day, let us remember a story of seemingly impossible peace between enemies on a cold and muddy Christmas Day, as described by Aaron Shepard in a letter to his sister on Christmas Day 1914:
"Through all this, we couldn’t help feeling curious about the German soldiers across the way. After all, they faced the same dangers we did, and slogged about in the same muck. What’s more, their first trench was only 50 yards from ours. Between us lay No Man’s Land, bordered on both sides by barbed wire—yet they were close enough we sometimes heard their voices.
Of course, we hated them when they killed our friends. But other times, we joked about them and almost felt we had something in common. And now it seems they felt the same.
Just yesterday morning—Christmas Eve Day—we had our first good freeze. Cold as we were, we welcomed it, because at least the mud froze solid. Everything was tinged white with frost, while a bright sun shone over all. Perfect Christmas weather.
During the day, there was little shelling or rifle fire from either side. And as darkness fell on our Christmas Eve, the shooting stopped entirely. Our first complete silence in months! We hoped it might promise a peaceful holiday, but we didn’t count on it. We’d been told the Germans might attack and try to catch us off guard.
I went to the dugout to rest, and lying on my cot, I must have drifted asleep. All at once my friend John was shaking me awake, saying, “Come and see! See what the Germans are doing!” I grabbed my rifle, stumbled out into the trench, and stuck my head cautiously above the sandbags.
I never hope to see a stranger and more lovely sight. Clusters of tiny lights were shining all along the German line, left and right as far as the eye could see.
“What is it?” I asked in bewilderment, and John answered, “Christmas trees!”
And so it was. The Germans had placed Christmas trees in front of their trenches, lit by candle or lantern like beacons of good will.
And then we heard their voices raised in song.
Stille nacht, heilige nacht . . . .
This carol may not yet be familiar to us in Britain, but John knew it and translated: “Silent night, holy night.” I’ve never heard one lovelier—or more meaningful, in that quiet, clear night, its dark softened by a first-quarter moon.
When the song finished, the men in our trenches applauded. Yes, British soldiers applauding Germans! Then one of our own men started singing, and we all joined in.
The first Nowell, the angel did say . . . .
In truth, we sounded not nearly as good as the Germans, with their fine harmonies. But they responded with enthusiastic applause of their own and then began another.
O Tannenbaum, o Tannenbaum . . . .
Then we replied.
O come all ye faithful . . . .
But this time they joined in, singing the same words in Latin.
Adeste fideles . . . .
British and German harmonizing across No Man’s Land! I would have thought nothing could be more amazing—but what came next was more so.
“English, come over!” we heard one of them shout. “You no shoot, we no shoot.”
There in the trenches, we looked at each other in bewilderment. Then one of us shouted jokingly, “You come over here.”
To our astonishment, we saw two figures rise from the trench, climb over their barbed wire, and advance unprotected across No Man’s Land. One of them called, “Send officer to talk.”
I saw one of our men lift his rifle to the ready, and no doubt others did the same—but our captain called out, “Hold your fire.” Then he climbed out and went to meet the Germans halfway. We heard them talking, and a few minutes later, the captain came back with a German cigar in his mouth!
“We’ve agreed there will be no shooting before midnight tomorrow,” he announced. “But sentries are to remain on duty, and the rest of you, stay alert.”
Across the way, we could make out groups of two or three men starting out of trenches and coming toward us. Then some of us were climbing out too, and in minutes more, there we were in No Man’s Land, over a hundred soldiers and officers of each side, shaking hands with men we’d been trying to kill just hours earlier!
Before long a bonfire was built, and around it we mingled—British khaki and German grey. I must say, the Germans were the better dressed, with fresh uniforms for the holiday.
Only a couple of our men knew German, but more of the Germans knew English. I asked one of them why that was.
“Because many have worked in England!” he said. “Before all this, I was a waiter at the Hotel Cecil. Perhaps I waited on your table!”
“Perhaps you did!” I said, laughing.
He told me he had a girlfriend in London and that the war had interrupted their plans for marriage. I told him, “Don’t worry. We’ll have you beat by Easter, then you can come back and marry the girl.”
He laughed at that. Then he asked if I’d send her a postcard he’d give me later, and I promised I would.
As it grew late, a few more songs were traded around the fire, and then all joined in for—I am not lying to you—“Auld Lang Syne.” Then we parted with promises to meet again tomorrow, and even some talk of a football match.
I was just starting back to the trenches when an older German clutched my arm. “My God,” he said, “why cannot we have peace and all go home?”
I told him gently, “That you must ask your emperor.”
He looked at me then, searchingly. “Perhaps, my friend. But also we must ask our hearts.”
And so, dear sister, tell me, has there ever been such a Christmas Eve in all history? And what does it all mean, this impossible befriending of enemies?
For the fighting here, of course, it means regrettably little. Decent fellows those soldiers may be, but they follow orders and we do the same. Besides, we are here to stop their army and send it home, and never could we shirk that duty.
Still, one cannot help imagine what would happen if the spirit shown here were caught by the nations of the world. Of course, disputes must always arise. But what if our leaders were to offer well wishes in place of warnings? Songs in place of slurs? Presents in place of reprisals? Would not all war end at once?"
"Through all this, we couldn’t help feeling curious about the German soldiers across the way. After all, they faced the same dangers we did, and slogged about in the same muck. What’s more, their first trench was only 50 yards from ours. Between us lay No Man’s Land, bordered on both sides by barbed wire—yet they were close enough we sometimes heard their voices.
Of course, we hated them when they killed our friends. But other times, we joked about them and almost felt we had something in common. And now it seems they felt the same.
Just yesterday morning—Christmas Eve Day—we had our first good freeze. Cold as we were, we welcomed it, because at least the mud froze solid. Everything was tinged white with frost, while a bright sun shone over all. Perfect Christmas weather.
During the day, there was little shelling or rifle fire from either side. And as darkness fell on our Christmas Eve, the shooting stopped entirely. Our first complete silence in months! We hoped it might promise a peaceful holiday, but we didn’t count on it. We’d been told the Germans might attack and try to catch us off guard.
I went to the dugout to rest, and lying on my cot, I must have drifted asleep. All at once my friend John was shaking me awake, saying, “Come and see! See what the Germans are doing!” I grabbed my rifle, stumbled out into the trench, and stuck my head cautiously above the sandbags.
I never hope to see a stranger and more lovely sight. Clusters of tiny lights were shining all along the German line, left and right as far as the eye could see.
“What is it?” I asked in bewilderment, and John answered, “Christmas trees!”
And so it was. The Germans had placed Christmas trees in front of their trenches, lit by candle or lantern like beacons of good will.
And then we heard their voices raised in song.
Stille nacht, heilige nacht . . . .
This carol may not yet be familiar to us in Britain, but John knew it and translated: “Silent night, holy night.” I’ve never heard one lovelier—or more meaningful, in that quiet, clear night, its dark softened by a first-quarter moon.
When the song finished, the men in our trenches applauded. Yes, British soldiers applauding Germans! Then one of our own men started singing, and we all joined in.
The first Nowell, the angel did say . . . .
In truth, we sounded not nearly as good as the Germans, with their fine harmonies. But they responded with enthusiastic applause of their own and then began another.
O Tannenbaum, o Tannenbaum . . . .
Then we replied.
O come all ye faithful . . . .
But this time they joined in, singing the same words in Latin.
Adeste fideles . . . .
British and German harmonizing across No Man’s Land! I would have thought nothing could be more amazing—but what came next was more so.
“English, come over!” we heard one of them shout. “You no shoot, we no shoot.”
There in the trenches, we looked at each other in bewilderment. Then one of us shouted jokingly, “You come over here.”
To our astonishment, we saw two figures rise from the trench, climb over their barbed wire, and advance unprotected across No Man’s Land. One of them called, “Send officer to talk.”
I saw one of our men lift his rifle to the ready, and no doubt others did the same—but our captain called out, “Hold your fire.” Then he climbed out and went to meet the Germans halfway. We heard them talking, and a few minutes later, the captain came back with a German cigar in his mouth!
“We’ve agreed there will be no shooting before midnight tomorrow,” he announced. “But sentries are to remain on duty, and the rest of you, stay alert.”
Across the way, we could make out groups of two or three men starting out of trenches and coming toward us. Then some of us were climbing out too, and in minutes more, there we were in No Man’s Land, over a hundred soldiers and officers of each side, shaking hands with men we’d been trying to kill just hours earlier!
Before long a bonfire was built, and around it we mingled—British khaki and German grey. I must say, the Germans were the better dressed, with fresh uniforms for the holiday.
Only a couple of our men knew German, but more of the Germans knew English. I asked one of them why that was.
“Because many have worked in England!” he said. “Before all this, I was a waiter at the Hotel Cecil. Perhaps I waited on your table!”
“Perhaps you did!” I said, laughing.
He told me he had a girlfriend in London and that the war had interrupted their plans for marriage. I told him, “Don’t worry. We’ll have you beat by Easter, then you can come back and marry the girl.”
He laughed at that. Then he asked if I’d send her a postcard he’d give me later, and I promised I would.
As it grew late, a few more songs were traded around the fire, and then all joined in for—I am not lying to you—“Auld Lang Syne.” Then we parted with promises to meet again tomorrow, and even some talk of a football match.
I was just starting back to the trenches when an older German clutched my arm. “My God,” he said, “why cannot we have peace and all go home?”
I told him gently, “That you must ask your emperor.”
He looked at me then, searchingly. “Perhaps, my friend. But also we must ask our hearts.”
And so, dear sister, tell me, has there ever been such a Christmas Eve in all history? And what does it all mean, this impossible befriending of enemies?
For the fighting here, of course, it means regrettably little. Decent fellows those soldiers may be, but they follow orders and we do the same. Besides, we are here to stop their army and send it home, and never could we shirk that duty.
Still, one cannot help imagine what would happen if the spirit shown here were caught by the nations of the world. Of course, disputes must always arise. But what if our leaders were to offer well wishes in place of warnings? Songs in place of slurs? Presents in place of reprisals? Would not all war end at once?"
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Anonymous donor gives $9,300 to Surrey Thrift Store
The volunteers at the Penny Savers' Thrift Store in Surrey, BC were beside themselves when they opened up a Canadian Tire plastic bag to find 93 folded $100 bills! Earlier, a woman accompanied by a small boy approached one of the volunteers just before closing time and asked if they accepted cash donations. When the volunteer said yes, she dropped off the bag and left without explanation or want of a thank you.
The store raises money for the Surrey Memorial Hospital (SMH) Auxiliary and was thrilled to receive this anonymous donation.
Although we do not know what motivated this woman or what effort went into her generous act of kindness, we can appreciate her selflessness and remember it the next time we are asked to spare some change.
The store raises money for the Surrey Memorial Hospital (SMH) Auxiliary and was thrilled to receive this anonymous donation.
Although we do not know what motivated this woman or what effort went into her generous act of kindness, we can appreciate her selflessness and remember it the next time we are asked to spare some change.
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Why Good News?
Every day the news is filled with negativity. We've developed into a society where 'newsworthy' generally means the big, the bad, and the ugly...anything that will shock the audience. Unfortunately, the more we see these stories, the less we get shocked by them and the worse they have to become to have the same effect.
So, what's the big deal? Well, if every morning over coffee, every afternoon at the water cooler, and every evening before bed our world focuses on negative events, we are bound to feel crummy. This negative news paints an unrealistic picture that doesn't reflect reality. The reality is this: the world is full of good news! Inspirational people, small acts of kindness, creativity, love, and happiness. If we shift our focus to proportionately include and value these stories, what impact could this have? Let's find out.
So, what's the big deal? Well, if every morning over coffee, every afternoon at the water cooler, and every evening before bed our world focuses on negative events, we are bound to feel crummy. This negative news paints an unrealistic picture that doesn't reflect reality. The reality is this: the world is full of good news! Inspirational people, small acts of kindness, creativity, love, and happiness. If we shift our focus to proportionately include and value these stories, what impact could this have? Let's find out.
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